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is one of three chaplains at (HCH) in Brampton, Ontario, Canada. All three are also pastors on staff at (CRC) on the HCH campus. Bodini pastored CRCs in Saskatoon and Ontario before starting his current role in October 2019—five months before the coronavirus hit metro Toronto. In this edited conversation, Bodini discusses senior faith formation during the pandemic.
HCH was started in 1969 primarily for Christian seniors with Dutch and Reformed roots. The complex includes six towers of independent living apartments (where about half of the nearly 850 residents receive assisted living services) and two nursing care manors with 240 residents. The average age across the entire complex is 87 years old. In 2011, Heritage Fellowship CRC was . We three HCH chaplains pastor the congregation as well as the whole complex. and I are ordained in the CRC of North America, and Hank Blystra is ordained in the Reformed Church in America.
Heritage Fellowship CRC (HFCRC) has about 260 active members, all HCH residents. Before COVID-19 we worshiped together on Sunday mornings and evenings in a large hall that can hold 400 people on the main floor and 100 in the balcony. Some residents attend other local CRCs. Others are Canadian Reformed, United Reformed, Anglican, United, Presbyterian, Baptist, Catholic, non-denominational, and non-Christian.
No, but I grew up among Dutch Canadians in the CRC. My dad immigrated from Italy at age 18 to Dresden, Ontario, where he worked for a sugar beet farmer. The farmer invited him to church so he could meet other young people, and the community enfolded him.
For one thing, it's reminded me how often older people have been overlooked during the pandemic. If you don't think their lives are worth much, then you haven't sat down and talked with a senior. We never stop learning or growing in faith. Before the pandemic, over 250 residents in the Towers were actively volunteering throughout our entire complex. They fed residents, led devotions before meals, and led hymn sings and Bible studies. Even now, some volunteers are connecting through phone calls and hallway visits.
Despite the various shutdowns, health regulations, and restrictions, some HCH residents and staff have gotten the virus, and some have died. As chaplains, we were used to doing end-of-life visits in residents' apartments and conducting large funeral services at HFCRC. But with funerals and graveside services strictly limited to ten people, some families are foregoing funerals. Some choose a private burial or cremation, and the family holds onto the urn. As the youngest chaplain here, I've taken responsibility for using social media technology to connect with residents, staff, and families.
Church services have continued throughout the pandemic, broadcast on the HCH inhouse television channel. They’re done without worshipers in the sanctuary. During the first COVID-19 shutdown, we televised worship with just an accompanist and pastor in the sanctuary. At other times we could have a small praise team of five to nine people—all sitting four meters [13 feet] apart in the sanctuary. In fall 2020, we began livestreaming . The words of the Scripture passages, songs, Apostles' Creed, and so on appear onscreen so people can participate from their dwellings.
Before COVID-19, we went into the manors to do a weekly hymn sing and a weekly Wednesday Bible study. The weekly Bible Study—essentially a devotional teaching—in the manors would also serve as our communion service the week after communion in HFCRC, which we do about six times a year. During the pandemic we shifted Bible study and hymn sings to the inhouse television channel. We've had to adapt communion. Now we coordinate with the kitchen staff to have communion elements delivered to all who want to participate on communion Sundays, and we all celebrate at the same time. This has been a huge blessing for spouses who live apart in the complex (towers and manors). Family outside the facility can also join through YouTube—so that entire families are celebrating together a continent apart.
Last April, I helped a family visit with their mom/oma [oma is Dutch for grandma] outside of Grace Manor. She was sick with COVID and was not eating. The family made . I helped them gather outside and facilitated a Zoom call with a staff member in the room so that the mom could see and hear her family outside. It took about an hour, but the mom was finally able to get a few drinks into her body and enough strength to be transferred out of bed and into her wheelchair. At the open window, she began waving to the family and stayed there for 25 minutes before returning to bed.
I've used Zoom and Facetime to pray with individual residents or do end-of-life video calls. On my phone, I can make my Bible have larger print or pull up a few lines of a hymn. I do it from my basement office in Hope Tower, while a personal support or activity assistant holds both the phone or tablet and the resident's hand. I remember one Faith Manor resident who had been such an advocate for people with disabilities. She was very ill with the virus. We'd arranged for her daughter and grandson to be outside her window, so she could see them and hear them on the phone. A 22-year-old activity coordinator was holding the phone and holding the woman's hand. The resident during that video chat. It was very touching and very difficult.
Even when we can resume in-person pastoral care, I expect to continue using technology to create community with family who live far away or can't visit often.
By January 2021, I was exhausted. We had lost 24 residents from COVID-19 in five weeks, 80 other residents were infected, and almost 150 staff were sick. Morale was low, and I was called upon to pray and bring words of hope. For me, the psalms bring hope and joy. We three chaplains started doing weekday devotions when the pandemic began here in March 2020. Later we added two retired pastors to the rotation. We read Scripture, do a short devotion, pray, sing a hymn, and then give a benediction. I always use a psalm when leading a weekday devotion, so, in under three years, I will have worked my way through the Psalms.
We will continue using the Psalms after the pandemic ends. I’m not a musical person, so songs don’t come to me easily. Pictures and images do. Psalm 121 is huge for me: “To the hills I look, where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the maker of heaven of earth.” As I walk to and from work each day, I arrive at the corner of Steeles Avenue and McLaughlin Road. Looking down Steeles, 28 kilometers to the west, I can see the Niagara Escarpment. To the hills I lift my eyes… Every day as I look, cloudy or sunny, I praise and thank God for his faithfulness, love, mercy, and strength. I also gain strength from my fellow chaplains, HCH colleagues, and Facebook pages for chaplains and pastors.
We never stop growing in faith. It's helpful to think about faith formation and life in thirds. Old age is the final third of life, and within it are three thirds. Early seniors are just retiring. Middle seniors realize they can't do as much as they used to. Maybe they experience some early dementia and no longer travel to warmer places for winter. Seniors in the final third are in decline or preparing to die soon.
So how do we continue to exercise their faith? It helps to recite the Lord's Prayer and Apostles' Creed together. Well known scripture texts seem to activate the Holy Spirit in seniors—not that the Spirit is ever absent from them. These texts include Psalms 23 and 121 and key stories, like Luke 2, the calling of Mary, the triumphal entry, Jesus walking on the water, and the crucifixion story.
By watching reactions, you can see and respond to what touches residents, even when they have dementia. Re-enacting David and Goliath worked really well before the pandemic. Whenever we get back to being able to do Bible study in person, I'm looking forward to trying some stories from Genesis.
Our church council is made up entirely of HCH residents. They all love the Lord, love the church, and some are affected by early stage dementia. When you do a Bible study with folks who have cognitive issues, it's more like giving a devotional. You ask a few easy questions. You might see someone nod off.
If I had the capacity, I'd love to do a Doctor of Ministry focused on faith formation and spiritual care with those journeying through dementia. I'd love to experiment on folks here and create a handbook. My two colleagues plan to retire in 2022, so maybe our search process will bring us a chaplain or pastor with the skill and knowledge to write a handbook.
Dementia brings a whole different view to how one conducts worship and preaches. Shorter is better. Repetition is key from week to week. Establishing patterns and key phrases is a huge blessing. Known songs help seniors remember their salvation more than new songs do.
It's really important to know a resident's faith background and their diet of hymns in younger years. This is the faith life that's real for them, whether the song is in German, Dutch, or English. Some residents who no longer speak will nevertheless sing in Dutch. During a hymn sing, you see how a golden oldie makes heads pop up. When the song ends, eyes close.
Songs that especially get a response here are "I Come to the Garden Alone," "This Is My Father's World," "How Great Thou Art," and "Amazing Grace." Most of these folks sing from memory. The hymns and songs they learned as a child and an adult before dementia can be triggered when the “original” tune is played. These are the words that remind them of God’s faithfulness and re-ignite faith, hope, and assurance of salvation.
I keep asking people who want new songs often, “When you are dying in your old age, what songs will you know from memory?” What you know now will be your guide to remembering your salvation later in life. The more a worshipping community can establish songs and hymns that remind them of their salvation and can be memorized, the better they will be in the generations to come.
I'd also ask churches to pray for healthcare workers. Some people push back against COVID-19 regulations. But when you see how doctors and nurses have to triage people in long-term care and emergency rooms—it's awful.
Consider asking people in your church which songs they think they'll remember as they near the end of life. Notice how different generations answer this question. Enrich your discussion by creating a song menu. Learn how Calvin University created a Top 50 songbook to sustain a life of faith. for student worship.
